There is a difference between knowing it is time to let something go and actually feeling as though you have let it go.
I learned that for myself.
I had reached a place where I understood that I needed to release a connection and move forward. I knew what I wanted intellectually. And yet my thoughts had not quite caught up with my decision.
I would go about my day and find myself returning to the same thoughts. Replaying things. Revisiting conversations. Thinking about what happened, what might have happened, or what I wished had been different.
I wasn't deliberately choosing to sit with it. My mind simply kept finding its way back.
As part of my Angelic Reiki practice and training, I experienced a cord-cutting meditation. I went into it with the intention of releasing the connection and calling my own energy and attention back to myself.
What I noticed afterward surprised me.
The situation didn't disappear from my memory. I didn't suddenly stop caring. Nothing about the past had been rewritten.
But the mental loops were different.
I could think about what had happened without automatically following the thought down the same familiar path. My attention wasn't being pulled back as persistently. I found that I could acknowledge the thought and then continue with my day.
For me, something had shifted.
My spiritual understanding of that experience is one of energetic release. Someone else might understand an experience like this as symbolic, contemplative, or simply the result of intentionally creating space for closure.
You don't have to interpret it exactly as I do for the practice to have meaning.
That experience is one of the reasons cord cutting has earned a place here in the Healing Room.
What Is Cord Cutting?
Within many spiritual and energy-work traditions, a cord is a way of describing the energetic connection we form with people, experiences, places, and sometimes even expectations.
Some connections feel nourishing. Others can feel remarkably difficult to put down.
Cord cutting is a spiritual practice centered on intentionally releasing a connection, attachment, or pattern that you no longer wish to carry in the same way.
It isn't about pretending something never happened.
And it isn't necessarily about removing someone from your heart.
It is about recognizing that something can have been important to you and still no longer need to occupy the same place in your present life.
What Might We Have Trouble Releasing?
Romantic relationships are probably one of the first things people think about when they hear about cord cutting, but they are certainly not the only reason someone might feel drawn to the practice.
You might consider a ritual of release after:
A difficult relationship.
Perhaps you know the relationship was not right for you, but you continue replaying it or feeling emotionally pulled toward it.
A divorce or separation.
Paperwork can declare that a marriage is finished long before your inner world feels finished with it. There can be memories, expectations, disappointments, anger, love, unanswered questions, and the life you once imagined together.
The ending of a friendship.
Friendship losses can be profound, particularly when there was never a conversation that provided the closure you wanted.
An estranged family relationship.
Sometimes distance is necessary even when love, history, obligation, or complicated emotions remain.
A painful chapter of your life.
A former workplace, a difficult season, an experience that changed you, or circumstances you continue revisiting long after they have ended.
A future that never happened.
Sometimes what holds us isn't a person at all. It is the life we expected to have with them. The reconciliation we imagined. The opportunity we thought would come. The version of our future we had already begun living inside our minds.
The death of someone you love.
Grief is not something that needs to be hurried, and cord cutting should never be presented as a way to stop loving or remembering someone who has died. But there may come a time when a person feels spiritually drawn toward releasing a particular attachment, regret, unfinished conversation, or way of holding the loss while continuing to carry the love.
These experiences are very different from one another.
What they can share is the feeling that some part of us continues returning to something we consciously know has changed.
Release Does Not Mean Rejection
This may be the most important thing I can tell you about cord cutting.
You don't have to make someone a villain in order to release them.
You don't have to decide that nothing good ever happened.
You don't have to stop loving someone.
You don't have to erase your memories.
And you certainly don't have to deny your own grief.
Sometimes release simply means accepting that the way you have been carrying a connection is no longer serving the life you are living now.
There are relationships that end even though love existed.
There are people we can remember fondly without needing to remain attached to what might have been.
There are experiences we can honor without continuing to revisit them every day.
There are people who have died whom we may love for the rest of our lives while still allowing ourselves to fully participate in the life that remains before us.
Cord cutting, as I practice it, isn't an act of punishment.
It is an act of release.
What Are We Actually Cutting?
I think the word cutting can make this practice sound harsher than it needs to be.
The intention isn't to exert control over another person or determine what they should feel, think, or experience.
The work is centered on you.
What are you ready to release?
What are you tired of carrying?
What continues to call your attention backward?
What expectation, conversation, resentment, longing, regret, or imagined future are you ready to hold differently?
Within my spiritual practice, I understand energetic cords as connections through which our attention and energy can remain attached to people and experiences.
The cord-cutting practice provides a deliberate spiritual moment in which we acknowledge that connection and choose release.
For someone who understands the practice differently, the visualization can also serve as a symbolic declaration:
I acknowledge what happened. I acknowledge what this meant to me. And I am ready to move forward.
Why Intention Matters
Cord cutting is not about forcing yourself to be finished before you are ready.
There may be things that still require practical action. There may be conversations you need to have, boundaries you need to establish, belongings that need to be exchanged, or ordinary human emotions that simply need time.
A spiritual practice doesn't replace those things.
Instead, cord cutting can mark an intentional moment when you recognize:
I do not want to keep carrying this in the same way.
That was an important part of my own experience.
I had already decided that I wanted to let go.
The meditation gave me a spiritual practice through which I could express that decision.
Release — and Return
There is another part of cord cutting that matters deeply to me.
I don't want the practice to end with cutting something away.
I want it to end with returning to yourself.
After release, there should be space to notice your own presence again.
Your attention.
Your intentions.
Your life.
Your plans.
The ordinary things waiting for you when the meditation ends.
Because ultimately, the purpose isn't to spend even more time concentrating on the person or situation you are trying to release.
It is to make room for what comes next.
That is why I think of this practice as Release & Return.
Release what you are ready to put down.
Return your attention to yourself.
And then return to your life.
How I Practice Angelic Cord Cutting
The cord-cutting practice that has a place here in the Healing Room is specifically Angelic Cord Cutting, rooted in the spiritual practices I learned through my Angelic Reiki training.
The angelic aspect is important because it is part of how I practice.
In my own practice, I begin with intention. There does not need to be a retelling of every detail of the story. What matters is becoming clear about what I am ready to release and what I no longer wish to carry in the same way.
I create sacred space in the tradition of my Angelic Reiki practice, inviting angels, Ascended Masters, and spiritual guides to surround and support the work.
The practice can include guided visualization, quiet reflection, sound, and the energetic and spiritual elements of Angelic Reiki appropriate to cord cutting. The intention is not to send negativity toward another person, control what happens to them, or erase them from memory. The intention is release.
And when the cord cutting is complete, I believe the practice should include grounding, reflection, and a deliberate return to the present.
Release, and then return.
Do I Have to Believe in Angels?
You don't need to share every one of my spiritual beliefs to understand or learn about cord cutting. Some people understand energetic practices literally, while others experience them as symbolic, meditative, or contemplative.
Here in the Healing Room, however, when I write about or create guided practices around Angelic Cord Cutting, I want to be transparent that angels are intentionally part of the practice.
My practice is rooted in Angelic Reiki, and angels, Ascended Masters, and spiritual guides are welcomed into the sacred space as part of the tradition in which I was trained. I would rather be transparent about that than remove an important part of my practice simply to make it appealing to everyone.
You do not need to adopt my beliefs or interpret an experience in exactly the same way I do.
For some guests, the angelic aspect may be exactly what draws them to the Healing Room. For others, a different form of contemplative release may feel more appropriate.
Either is perfectly all right.
Angelic Cord Cutting is offered as a spiritual and contemplative practice. It is not medical or mental-health treatment and is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any physical or mental-health condition.
— Mika